Going Down to Cougar Town

I’ll admit that before I spoke to Lexxi, I also believed many of the misconceptions about the cougar/cub lifestyle. I’ve always found it really fascinating to see a considerably younger man with a considerably older woman. I don’t know if it evokes insecurity or because I am just genuinely baffled and secretly hoping that one day I’d be just as cool to score such a hot little potato, too. I believe the reason I still get a little shocked by it, is because it's not as widely spoken about as say, the older man/younger woman phenomena.

 

It's become quite the norm for younger women to seek out the companionship of much older men – just look at the plethora of websites out there that encourage this kind of relationship. Sites such as Sugardaddy.com or Seeking Arrangement will quickly make you realize that there are thousands of people who are specifically interested in this kind of financial agreement. A lot of these sites have men advertising for “a hot secretary to do all of my filing, but to suck a little something-something on the side, too.” Okay, so, he wants your young, hot body, and thinks that making you “work” for your money would make you feel like less of a prostitute. Right.

 

A lot of the fascination regarding the older man revolves around the idea that with an older man comes financial freedom and absolute emotional stability, but trust me, that is not always the case. I have dated older men in the past, and as great as it was to be spoiled and taken care of financially, that really can only take you so far before you realize that this kind of arrangement just doesn’t always meet up to your sexual and emotional expectations. For the most part, I found older men to be sexually unsatisfying. I’m not saying that that is the case with everyone, I am sure there are plenty out there who could prove me wrong, but I am speaking from my own personal experiences here.

 

For the first couple of weeks, I found these rendezvous to be quite thrilling, but once the novelty of the new sexy, almost forbidden relationship wore off, I found my silver fox wanting to be in bed by 9pm – lights off, leaving me with the grim prospect of waking up to no morning nookie, either. As much as some of these much older men want to hold onto their youth, and work hard to try and rock your world, it unfortunately just doesn’t always happen, and then the disappointment of unmet expectations sets in. With age, comes wisdom they say. I believe that with age, comes and age gap, and that means different libidos – and trust me, Viagra only goes so far.

 

Even though they try and convince themselves that they are okay with this kind of superficial relationship, these younger women might eventually find that there isn’t the emotional connection that they subconsciously crave. As humans, we can only maintain a shallow relationship for so long before we have a moment of weakness and breakdown only to realize that our older, wealthier man, is not interested in seeing that ugly side of us…ever. We are a trophy and thus we need to shine brightly, my dear. Always.

 

The cougar/cub relationship is driven by something entirely the opposite. From what I can gather, younger men aren’t necessarily looking for financial stability in their older female counterparts, but more so a sense of maturity that they might not be getting from a woman in the throes of her rip-roaring, unpredictable twenties. I can speak proudly from experience and tell you that I was a goddamn wreck all throughout my 20s. It was a rollercoaster of emotional highs and lows and a time in which I would love someone one day, and hate his guts the next. And trust me, that was normal. It was only until I reached my thirties that I started discovering my womanhood and my newfound sense of self-assurance.

 

I’m not saying every woman in her twenties will turn out to be a Cruella, but for the most part females go through a lot of hormonal changes during that time and it is tough to keep romantic relationships afloat. Women also tend to equate sex with love more so than men do and are often left feeling down post-coital, thinking thoughts such as “he owes me something because I gave him that part of me” and “why hasn’t he texted me?” The kind of drama that men in their 20s and 30s don’t want to have to deal with.

 

These are the golden years of your life, so why the hell spend it with an emotional wreck? Surely, you can’t blame these cubs. A lot of the young guys I have spoken to told me that there is more to life than having to deal with the crazy ups and downs and all the other expectations that women in their twenties are looking for: marriage and children being two of them. These two potentials are very much in the forefront of a twenty-something-year-old woman’s mind – the pressure that is placed on young women to get married and procreate plays a major part in this, unfortunately. Once again, I am not saying that every woman is a ballistic wrecking ball, but I think a lot of men have come across this kind of behavior and are pushed into the arms of an older, more emotionally secure woman who is just looking to experience life. Someone who has perhaps already been through marriage and kids and who now just wants a little bit of fun.

 

I hope you’ll listen to this episode of Must Love Fetish, and allow Lexxi to explain to you what she loves so much about her cub, and why he loves her, too.

 

You may find Lexxi on Niteflirt @ phonesexlexxi

Or on Twitter @phonesexlexxi

 

Financial Domination Addiction with Mistress Alisa

Tune in to Must Love Fetish this Thursday, 06/08 at midnight to hear the full episode.

When I first joined Niteflirt, I had no cooking clue what financial domination was. All I knew was that a lot of men wanted it and that a lot of men were ready to give me a lot of money for very little work.

Over the past eighteen months, I have tried my hand at financial domination on and off, but it has never been a fetish that I was able to fully wrap my head around. I have always held the belief that one must work hard for one’s money, so when I got my first financial domination client, naturally I found it a little disconcerting. I went and explored the fetish and appreciated it as a fetish that is very imbedded in the psychological – one where “paypigs” or “cashcows” (as these men like to call themselves,) often become dependent on the feeling of giving away their hard-earned money to girls who will squander it on just another new pair of Gucci sunglasses they really do not need.

When you do a search of “FinDom” on Twitter, you’ll often find “slaves” professing their love to these “Goddesses” by giving up their cherished time spent with friends and family so that their money can go to a Mistress (or as Alisa likes to say, “Bambi or Barbie”) instead. Sometimes these men fall so far down the rabbit hole, that they are incapable of getting themselves to stand up again, often looking back years later in shame with thoughts such as “How did I get to this very low point in my life? Where did all my money really go?”  

There are women out there who are extraordinary at navigating this fetish and who can meet a need in some of these men. Others, however, do it for unethical reasons and are not even slightly concerned with how many lives they ruin in their quest of living the most over-the-top lifestyle they possibly can. These women are often driven by self-indulgence and will destroy someone’s life without even thinking twice about it.

There are thousands of fake Findommes out there, but occasionally, you come across someone truly valuable and worthy of paying attention to – someone intellectual, cultured, with a distinctive and exceptional approach to Findom. I am so thrilled that I found Mistress Alisa’s profile on Niteflirt and that she granted me an interview.

 

I hope you will find our chat to be of interest to you and that you’ll have a much better idea of the incredibly subconscious and mystifying world that is financial domination. If you are someone who has this fetish, may this open your eyes and give you the much-needed knowledge you need to seek out the real Dommes who would be able to guide instead of annihilate you.

 

If you or someone you know need help for financial domination, sex, porn, or masturbation addiction, please do not hesitate to contact Mistress Alisa for counseling by clicking here.

 

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You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

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Interesting Facts You Did Not Know About a "Girlfriend Experience"

From "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" 

From "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" 

More and more men are establishing connections with ladies who are agreeing to offer them the experience of a lifetime outside of their real life relationships in exchange for phone sex calls, gifts, or money. Turn on your television and you might see "The Girlfriend Experience" or "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" – two shows that have almost completely normalized this phenomenon. Many people are enthralled by the topic, but being charmed is usually where it ends for them. However, for a large number of men, the Girlfriend Experience (be it virtual or real life) poses the prospect of experiencing the picture-perfect love affair with the absolute flawless girlfriend. To many, it truly is a once in a lifetime occurrence. 

This past week I had Ryder on the show. She is one of my fellow flirts on Niteflirt and is what I would like to refer to as "Wonder Woman herself." Ryder is not only swanky, sophisticated, sweet, and witty, but she is also an absolute marketing guru and knows just how to relate to people on a deep and very passionate level. So much so, that even I was ready to give her a call! 

Tune in to the Must Love Fetish Podcast as Ryderdoll and I discuss exactly what a Girlfriend Experience is and why it draws so many men. 

 

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Episode 14 will be available Thursday, June 7th at midnight and I'll be connecting with kindred spirit and pro/lifestyle Dominatrix Mistress Alisa to talk about the importance of BDSM counseling and support for sex, porn, and masturbation addiction.  

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

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Brocas the Kinky Clown

Introduction

I had an absolutely mindblowing interview with Brocas the Clown. I genuinely didn't know that I was going to get somebody to speak about a clown fetish and on top of it all, be so frank about it. It is like a dream come true for me. I wanted to do an episode that would pay tribute to Red Nose day, but I also wanted something that would be entertaining, electrifying, and a little bit uncommon. In the past I had done quite a few episodes that were predominantly about domination and BDSM, so it was imperative to the show’s success that I add a little bit of a variety for my listeners. And hey, what better way to do that than with a clown? 

Why I chose Brocas

My love-hate relationship with clowns started when I first watched the film "It." Stephen King changed the picture I had in my mind of the once happy party clown I always envisioned as the special guest at my birthday party. As I got older, I became involved and very devoted to the study of criminal psychology, where John Wayne Gacy repeatedly popped up as one of the most infamous and captivating killers to study. He was the nail in the clown's coffin for me and had finally solidified my extreme fear of clowns. I am often drawn to what I fear most and would find myself watching hours and hours of menacing clowns playing bloodcurdling pranks on people on Youtube. After viewing these clips, I would find myself tossing and turning for days on end without so much as one night of calm, unflustered sleep. The feeling of enchantment and horror became like a drug to me. I figured the only way I was to get over my fear was to ultimately face it head-on. So, I went in search of a clown. I contacted Brocas through a fetish site called Fetlife. I believe I typed in the word "clown" or something similar and he was one of a select few profiles that popped up. He immediately stood out to me and once I looked at his pictures, I was hooked. They didn't quite change my opinion of clowns just yet though, but I definitely enjoyed them for their remarkable artistic qualities. Right away I could tell that Brocas was someone who put a lot of planning into what he did. He didn't just do it because he wanted likes on a page - this was someone who was sincere about his love for dressing up as a clown – someone who cared about how Brocas was being presented to the world. I got the courage to message him. I waited about two days until he responded.

 

This was the conversation we had: 

Sara

"I find your profile to be fascinating and very well thought-out. How are you? I am not a creeper - simply someone who would love to know more about your interest in clowns. Hope you are doing well today."

 

Brocas

"Thanks for the message, Sara!
I'm sure you aren't a creeper :op
What would you like to know!?"

 

Sara

"Thank you so much for getting back to me. I'd like to know EVERYTHING. I am a Human Sexuality student and I have a podcast called Must Love Fetish on iTunes. I was wondering if you'd ever like to be a guest on my show? If you look at the podcast, you'll notice that I do very well and have all 5-star reviews. I love your pictures so much, by the way!!!"

 

Brocas

"I'd be happy to! I love a good discussion :)"

 

The Interview

I panicked. I was terrified. There is a difference between reading something in a book, compared to actually experiencing it in real life. When you are book-smart and you inform yourself about a fetish in that way, you don't learn nearly as much as when you put yourself in that particular fetishist's shoes. Brocas agreed to do the interview, but only if I promised to do clown make-up with him. We were both to be in clown-face for a video call. I agreed. I was rattled. I had no idea who to expect on the other side of that cam, but once his face appeared, there was this oomph of joyfulness and an amazing sincerity. Brocas made me feel so calm and he taught me in that short amount of time - the hour that we spoke on Skype - what life really should be about - that it is crucial that we stop taking ourselves so damn seriously. When I was doing my make-up before the interview I couldn't help but take photos and pull faces in the mirror at myself. It was exactly as Brochas had said - when you're dressed up as a clown, the real you, the unaffected you, the Id - that instinctive part of your individuality reveals itself, and it became obvious to me that mine hadn't come out to play in forever. For the first time in a long time I felt sad for myself. Why are we so sold on having to hide who we really are? With Brocas I felt uninhibited and I would like to thank him for that. I want him to know that he has taught me an invaluable lesson to take with me wherever I go. I certainly hope that we can all learn from his free-spiritedness and goodness.

If you would like to listen to the interview you may find it by clicking on the links below. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some clown clips to get to.

 

Hope to catch you on the kinky side soon.

Love,

Sara xo 

 

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Episode 13 will be available Thursday, June 1st at midnight and I'll chat to Ryderdoll about her job as a Girlfriend Experience.

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot me an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with my weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play,  Stitcher, and really all over the internet to be quite honest.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

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BDSM with Master Severyn Kain

Episode 11

Master Severyn Kain is a BDSM Master, Alternative Lifestyle Presenter, and Fetish Performer active in the BDSM community since 2006. He has presented seminars and workshops on the subjects of Sexuality and BDSM at many events and conventions over the years, as well as demystifying the BDSM Lifestyle at local community centers and universities. He has been featured as a guest on over a dozen podcasts including: Masocast, The People of Kink, The Intimate Lifestyle, Erotic Awakening with Dan & Dawn, and Sex With Timaree, to name a few, as well as being interviewed on local and national radio. He is also the host of his own BDSM-themed podcast, Kink Confessions (currently on hiatus). Master Severyn has organized over 100 community events over the years and is the founder, organizer and host of the Q-City Kink Alternative Lifestyle Festival which was celebrated annually in Québec City, Canada. 

On this episode, Master Severyn explains how Hollywood has shaped the public's opinion of BDSM. 

 

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Where you can find Master Severyn Kain

Facebook

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Instagram: Master Severyn Kain

Hotmail: master-severyn@hotmail.com

 

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Episode 11 will be available Thursday, May 18th at midnight and we'll chat to Master Severyn Kain about how Hollywood has shaped people's opinions on BDSM.

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play,  Stitcher, and really all over the internet to be quite honest.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

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Domination Through Compassion

Episode 10

 

Excerpt from "Femdom For Nice Girls: A Self-Guided Manual for the Caring Mistress"

"From childhood onwards, females are encouraged into subservient roles, so that taking the lead can feel strange and unnatural, even "unfeminine" and "not nice". We are discouraged from aggressively grabbing what we want, and instead encouraged to sacrifice and nurture. We are taught to be prizes, not competitors.

Surely, there has to be more to life than that. Many men -- the ones who value assertiveness (and even a little cruelty) in their female lovers would agree. So would many women.

If you're one of these women, or if your man is one of those men, then this book could be just what you and he have been searching for."

 

I highly recommend this book. You can purchase it here.

 

I would like to thank My submissive for being on the show this week and for having shared his experiences of cuckolding and chastity with us. I would also like to apologize in advance for My very annoying laugh, but I got super excited during this episode and obviously felt the need to express it in an odd way. Nonetheless, enjoy!

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Knowledge of the week to take with you

  • Cuckolding is very psychological and for a couple to truly enjoy cuckolding as a lifestyle, they need to embrace the emotional aspects and obstacles that come with it. 
  • Cuckolding is not a fetish - it is a lifestyle. Many fetishes fall under cuckolding, for example Bondage, BBC, and feminization. Every relationship is different and different fetishes will be a turn on for different couples. For instance: not all men want to be feminized; not all men want to partake in male to male physical contact. It differs for everyone.
  • From Wikipedia: Cuckold Origin: The word cuckold derives from the cuckoo bird, alluding to its habit of laying its eggs in other birds' nests. The association is common in medieval folklore, literature, and iconography. English usage first appears about 1250 in the satirical and polemical poem "The Owl and the Nightingale" (l. 1544). The term was clearly regarded as embarrassingly direct, as evident in John Lydgate's "Fall of Princes" (c. 1440). In the late 14th century, the term also appeared in Geoffrey Chaucer's "The Miller's Tale". Shakespeare's poetry often referred to cuckolds, with several of his characters suspecting they had become one. One often-overlooked subtlety of the word is that it implies that the husband is deceived, that he is unaware of his wife's unfaithfulness and may not know until the arrival or growth of a child plainly not his (as with cuckoo birds). The female equivalent cuckquean first appears in English literature in 1562, adding a female suffix to the cuck. A related word, first appearing in 1520, is wittol, which substitutes wit (in the sense of knowing) for the first part of the word, referring to a man aware of and reconciled to his wife's infidelity.

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Please let us know how you felt about this episode - did it upset you? Did it make you feel uncomfortable in any way? Lets talk. Lets debate. Lets connect. if you liked it, it would be so darn awesome if you would subscribe and then rate us on iTunes. I take every single rating very seriously, unless it's less than 5 stars - well, in that case, you can f**k right off.  

Episode 11 will be available Thursday, May 18th at midnight and we'll chat to Master Severyn Kain about how Hollywood has shaped people's opinions on BDSM.

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play,  Stitcher, and really all over the internet to be quite honest.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

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Professional Cuddling with Dr. Yoni Alkan

Episode 9

Cuddlist.com describes Dr. Alkan as, "a multidisciplinary guy who creates an island of calmness away from the bustling world. A perfect combination of attentive touch and a good listener, mixed with a good dose of relaxation.

Dr. Alkan has a Doctorate in Human Sexuality, and a Masters in conflict resolution. While having a technical background, he also taught dance and played music for over two decades.

Having so many different perspectives makes him a very talented before-during-and-after-care-giver: While his soft and gentle touch can be soothing and comforting, he is also quite the conversation buddy and can really hold space for anyone in need."

 

I am beyond excited to talk to Dr. Alkan about what exactly this non-sexual, consensual form of touch is all about. 

 

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Dr. Yoni Alkan, Certified Professional Cuddler, Cuddlist.com

Dr. Yoni Alkan, Certified Professional Cuddler, Cuddlist.com

Knowledge of the week to take with you

  • Professional cuddling is a nonsexual form of therapy. 
  • Professional cuddling teaches consent and cuddle parties are often also referred to as "consent workshops."
  • As human beings, we need touch in order to thrive, but as a society we steer away from touch, because touch equals sex, and sex equals "taboo." The thing is, touch doesn't have to equal sex. Touch can also just mean one human being reaching out to another in a way that implies nothing more than to bring about a feeling of comfort. 
  • Many people still consider sex to be taboo, and therefore it is vital for us to constantly promote a sex-positive culture. 

Some words of wisdom

"Technology can help us find one another." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"Our society is pushing touch away from our every day lives. You can see that by the way people react to touch or how they react to talking about professional cuddling." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"In our society touch equals sex and sex equals taboo. If this is a taboo then I won't talk about sex, which means I won't even talk about touch." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"Touch doesn't have to be sexual." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"People don't understand how important touch is in their lives. A lot of people are lacking touch in their lives. The problem lies in making them see that touch is what they are missing." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"Everything has become so fast-paced that we are letting our emotional well-being suffer as a result of it." - Sara
"One of the major issues is the coupling of touch with sex." - Dr. Yoni Alkan
"This would be fantastic to recommend to my BDSM submissive clients as a form of nonsexual after-care therapy." - Sara
"Professional cuddling can be defined as nonsexual, consensual touch." - Dr. Yoni Alkan

Some things to check out after you've listened to the show

 

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Episode 10 will be available Thursday, May 11th at midnight and we'll chat to My submissive on the Must Love Fetish podcast about life as Mistress Sara's slave! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play,  Stitcher, and really all over the internet to be quite honest.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

Lets remember to always keep our online community protected and to stay safe, sane, and consensual. 

Phone Sex/Japanese Penis Honoring

Episode 8

 

Being a phone sex operator is a lot of work. I think there is a misconception about what phone sex is and I think most people think that it is a job that anyone is capable of doing. And, my guest and I today are here to dispel the myths of phone sex and establish the real facts behind what it is like to really work as a “phone ho” – I actually hate that term and much prefer to call myself and my fellow ladies “virtual courtesans.” I am proud to be one of the Peck and Call Girls - a group of modern, virtual courtesans who pride ourselves on giving good… phone. Of course, you do get phone sex operators who cater to a completely different kind of clientele – maybe a little more pornographic and sexual in nature, but that is something that can be discussed in an entirely different episode. Today, we are looking at the upmarket side of phone sex – the men who are willing to pay a lot for elegant and classy ladies – ladies who truly know what they are talking about. Now, there are many men out there who also work as Phone Sex Operators, but for today’s episode we will be focusing mostly on female phone sex operators. I am super thrilled to welcome my long-time phone sex colleague and a pioneer in a technique called “Japanese Penis Honoring.” – Gentlemen, does that not just sound like pure bliss?

This gorgeous lady describes herself as:

a mature, experienced and extremely sensual woman.
She’s a feisty redhead with a 36HH bust and a booty to match, with a beautiful hourglass figure that perhaps Mae West or Jane Mansfield would have envied.
She’s passionate and sexy, but most of all, she has a serious appetite for adventure.

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Fetish/Kink knowledge of the week to take with you

Japanese Penis Honoring is an art form and should be respected as such.

Specializing in penis honoring over the phone takes a very skilled phone sex lady. Since men are so visual, she really has to be able to describe every aspect of the massage in detail.

Phone sex calls are not always about sex. Sometimes people call just so that they can be vulnerable with someone anonymously. We have been conditioned to believe that boys don't cry, and a lot of these men feel that phone sex offers them a safe place to really let go and explore without any judgment - be it sexual, or non-sexual in nature.  

Fetish/Kink words of wisdom... Let it be... 

"It's nice to try and imagine what someone looks like." - Shasta

"I've often wondered if I may be having a conversation with George Clooney." - Sara

"Our imaginations are far more powerful than anything our eyes can see." - Sara

"A connection is vital, because we actually enjoy what we do. Men are intuitive. We don't give them enough credit and they can tell when someone is having a good time on the phone or not." - Sara

"When I'm taking a call, it is my complete and utter focus and that is why I have a loyal clientele." - Shasta 

"I have one gentleman who I once spent an hour on the phone with singing show tunes." - Shasta

"Often times the people in their own lives might not be open to their thoughts and feelings, and therefore they feel the need to reach out." - Shasta

"Men need to be loved, nurtured, and taken care of." - Sara

"Japanese Penis Honoring is extremely sensual. It focuses on the whole body, but mostly on the penis. It's very ceremonial and has become my absolute favorite part of intimacy." -Shasta

"I can literally be massaging him for hours and be as pleasured by massaging him as he is by getting the massage." - Shasta

"Japanese Penis Honoring can go hand in hand with tease and denial. Mind the pun." - Sara

"It is a sensual connection and is very relaxing." - Shasta

"The fact that I call it a penis and not a cock is respectful. Many men are intrigued by that." - Shasta

"Thank you for sharing this technique so in-depth. You never know who is listening. There might be someone out there who is in a sex-less marriage who needed this and it could potentially have saved that relationship." - Sara

"This technique is great for men with erectile dysfunction." - Shasta

Some things to check out after you've listened to the show

Shasta Not Alona on Niteflirt

SweetlySensual_Sara on Niteflirt

SweetlySensual_Sara on Twitter @SaraSweetly

The Peck and Call Girls 

Niteflirt - get your first three minutes free

The Book of the Penis 

The Element PM Sex Toy from JimmyJane

 

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Episode 9 will be available Thursday, May the 4th (be with you) at midnight and we'll have Dr. Yoni Alkan (DHS) on the Must Love Fetish podcast to talk about cuddling! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

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It's My Lifestyle

Episode 7

Sara gets a phone call from Tracy in London who shares what life as a swinger in "The Lifestyle" is really like. 

 

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Fetish knowledge of the week to take with you

  • There are more than 9 million swingers in the US alone. 
  • Most swingers lead very normal lives and are able to compartmentalize between their personal and swinging lives. 
  • A couple has to have a very strong bond in order to survive a swinging relationship. 

 

Fetish words of wisdom... Let it be... 

"The lifestyle lends itself to not carrying the emotional baggage that a regular threesome would."
"The more people who know about swinging, the less stigma involved."
"Swinging has become a lot more socially acceptable."
"It's a very caring community and there is never a question about protection. You are always encouraged to protect yourself."
"Saying 'no' on the night if you're not feeling it, is not unheard of."
"Consent and respect is really important in the swinging world."
"My husband and I believe that in our relationship, the sexual satisfaction does not really lie with one another."
"We always leave holding hands. We always know that our relationship and bond is growing stronger."
"Keeping a job, being a wife/husband, and also having to please your partner sexually is a lot of pressure. Swinging takes that pressure off of it."

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Episode 8 will be available Thursday, April 20th at midnight and it'll be a total surprise on the Must Love Fetish podcast! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play, as well as Stitcher.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

Lets remember to always keep our online community protected and to stay safe, sane, and consensual. 

You're a Looner

Episode 6

We have a looner! Yes! Life is sweet and I have never been more excited to speak to someone with a fetish before. The reason? I did not think that any looners would come forward, but, yup, we have Rodney, and Rodney is more than happy to tell me all about his balloon attraction.

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Fetish knowledge of the week to take with you

  • The majority of looners are between the ages of 20-30 and most are male. This could be, because the younger generation (particularly males) are more prone to be open about sex.
  • A looner might not necessarily have a sexual attraction towards balloons. It could also be romantic, or even platonic. 
  • There are different types of looners. Some like to pop balloons, whereas others might dislike popping and even go so far as to say that it makes them very uncomfortable.

 

Fetish words of wisdom... Let it be... 

"I accept it now. It never used to be like that. I felt like a freak, but have since met someone who shares my interest." - Rodney
"I never considered bringing girls to my house. I have tons of balloons around my place and for a long time it was terrifying to imagine introducing a girl to that." - Rodney
"When it got to a point where my love interest would want to come over to see my place, that would usually be when the relationship would come to an end." - Rodney
"I had a lot of short term relationships, because it's hard when you can't talk to someone about your fetish. I mean, how far can a relationship like that really go?" -Rodney
"I never knew that a balloon fetish falls under the latex category." - Sara
"Not every looner gets attached to their balloons, but I am still emotionally attached in some way or another and have had to make my girlfriend understand that my balloons will never replace her."
"Sometimes we have vanilla sex, but I don't always get the sexual satisfaction that I really want."
"There is a huge sub-culture of looners. We have so many options for communication through dating sites and the internet and before I discovered that, I felt very alone."
"I see every balloon as a person. Some I am more attracted to - like my round balloons, others are just there in my room."
"Sometimes I feel like one balloon might be watching me with another balloon and then it'll get jealous. Almost like I am cuckolding a balloon."
"Red balloons are kind of pornographic to me, but with pink balloons I enjoy the act of lovemaking."
 

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Episode 7 will be available Thursday, April 20th at midnight. We'll be discussing "The Lifestyle" on the Must Love Fetish podcast! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play, as well as Stitcher.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

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The Sensational SissyBoy

Episode 5

I am ecstatic to be talking to Peter, a heterosexual submissive man, who loves the hell out of his lacy knickers, wigs, and red lipstick.

Peter is an animator who first realized that he had a feminization fetish when an ex-girlfriend introduced him to his alter ego "Sis."

 

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My all-time favorite drag superstar, Raven

My all-time favorite drag superstar, Raven

Fetish knowledge of the week to take with you

  • You get varying degrees of feminization - some men only prefer to wear lingerie, while some like the full monty - all the way up to being wigged and made up.
  • Yes, sometimes it is about feeling humiliated, but sometimes it is also about giving your partner what she wants and making her happy.
  • Feminizing someone is not the same as being a drag queen - drag is an art form. However, Peter doesn't mind calling it whatever. All he knows is he is very happy transforming into "Sis."
Image courtesy of Buzzfeed Video

Image courtesy of Buzzfeed Video

Fetish words of wisdom... Let it be... 

"I don't usually tell people right off the bat that I am a sissyboy, but I embrace it now." - Peter @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"It started out with a girlfriend I had who wanted me to try on her underwear. I didn't like the idea at all at first." - Peter @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"At first I thought she was going to wear the lingerie for me, but that was not the case - she wanted me to wear it." - Peter @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"Not all submissive men want to be feminized." - @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"True submissive men want to please their Dominant, so they'll often wear female underwear if that is what she really wants." - @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
She introduced light-petting when we were in the lingerie and it slowly developed into something sexual." - Peter @SaraSweetly (Tweet)

Some things to check out after you've listened to the show

Your crossdressing superstore

Feminine lingerie for men 

Where it's fun to be a girl  

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Episode 6 will be available Thursday, April 6th at midnight. We'll be discussing a Balloon fetish on the Must Love Fetish podcast! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play, as well as Stitcher.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

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The Bionic Woman - Brady's Story

Episode 4

 

We wanted to get a different perspective on the FemBot fetish, so we asked Brady to share his story with us. Brady says that as he has gotten older, he's been able to be more honest with himself about his fetish and we are thrilled to have had him share his personal experience with us.

 

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Image courtesy of Fantasio on Deviant Art 

Image courtesy of Fantasio on Deviant Art 

Fetish knowledge for the week to take with you

  • A Fembot fetish is not necessarily an attraction to an actual Robot, although it can be.
  • When a FemBot glitches, it gives you a perspective into what her true nature really is.
  • Sometimes the idea of having a human pretending to be a FemBot, pretending to be a human, can be more sexy than the FemBot itself. 
Image courtesy of Ex-Machina 

Image courtesy of Ex-Machina 

Fetish words of wisdom... Let it be... 

"According to psychologytoday.com, we live in a sexually repressive culture. We just don't talk about sex." - @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"Two people can have the same fetish, but be so completely different from one another." - @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"I still have some questions about it - things that are a little questionable about this fetish." - Brady @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
"I feel like this fetish might have a misogynistic aspect to it and I am having a hard time dealing with that." - Brady @SaraSweetly (Tweet)
When you share your fetish, it can definitely up the intimacy level and also allow your partner to open up to you."  - Brady @SaraSweetly  (Tweet)
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Some cool FemBot stuff

Awesome song by Robyn 

A list of FemBot films

 

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Please let us know how you felt about this episode - did it upset you? Did it make you feel uncomfortable in any way? Lets talk. Lets debate. Lets connect. if you liked it, it would be so darn awesome if you would subscribe and then rate us on iTunes. I take every single rating very seriously, unless it's less than 5 stars - well, in that case, you can f**k right off.  

Episode 5 will be available Thursday, March 30th at midnight. We'll be discussing a SissyBoy fetish on the Must Love Fetish podcast! 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play, as well as Stitcher.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

Lets remember to always keep our online community protected and to stay safe, sane, and consensual. 

The Bionic Woman - Travis' Story

EPISODE 3

I had a great time chatting to Travis about his FemBot fetish. A few days after this recording, I received an email from him saying that our conversation made him really think about what he was truly experiencing at this moment in his life and how he desperately needed to confront his on-going battle with depression. He mentioned that he was having a very difficult time figuring out whether or not this really is a FemBot fetish or whether or not he is just having a very hard time dealing with the passing of his best friend. Travis has decided to see a therapist so he can find a healthy way to cope with the void she has left in his life. He believes that his FemBot fascination served as a wonderful defense mechanism as he was essentially "replacing" the absence of his friend with the fantasy of a FemBot who will never be able to leave him. Travis also admitted that he never really dealt with the passing away of his friend by seeking help or talking to someone about it thoroughly, and that this podcast has given him the opportunity to confront his feelings of depression and isolation. Travis, we wish you all the best and trust wholeheartedly that you will find the help you need to deal with your grief in the best way possible for yourself. You are incredibly brave and we commend you on being so open and honest about what you are going through.

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It was an absolute pleasure to interview you and I hope that this podcast will help someone else out there who may be experiencing similar feelings.

We can all help prevent suicide. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals - 1-800-273-8255  https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

 

Listen to Travis' full story here.

Please let us know how you felt about this episode - did it upset you? Could you relate to it in any way? Lets talk. Lets debate. Lets connect. if you liked it, it would be so darn awesome if you would subscribe and then rate us on iTunes. I take every single rating very seriously, unless it's less than 5 stars - well, in that case, you can f**k right off.  

Episode 4 will be available Thursday, March 23rd at midnight. We'll be discussing "The Bionic Woman - Brady's Story" and really getting into the fetish on the Must Love Fetish podcast. 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

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Quicksand-errific!

EPISODE 2

We are thrilled and excited to have started this educational journey and have just completed episode two - we hope to build a solid and loyal audience of open-minded fetish enthusiasts. 

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In this episode, we get to speak to George, an Engineer living in Chicago. George has kept his quicksand fetish quiet for most of his life but is excited to share his experiences and wisdom about his love for quicksand with us. 

Tarzan and Jane

Tarzan and Jane

You should subscribe for the full episode on iTunes, Stitcher, (and very soon Google Play,) 

but here are a few takeaways from our conversation with George:

  • There is both a personal as well as social stigma involved with this fetish.

"Sometimes I have a difficult time dealing with it even though I've lived with this fetish for years. A part of me wants to protect it and keep it safe - keep it a secret, yet I hate it sometimes, because it kind of makes me feel somewhat like a freak."
  • This fetish differs vastly from person to person.

"It's different for everybody. I actually like it more when someone isn't THAT much submerged, but I am just talking from my point of view here. For me, it's more about the 'damsel in distress' fantasy, actually. I like the idea of a beautiful woman with really long legs in quicksand. In the fantasy, I find her and then I get to save her."
  • Sometimes a fetish just is what it is... enjoyable.

"I want to keep this a secret, because it kind of makes me feel a little naughty - which is part of the appeal. Also, I don't want to tell the people closest to me and have them analyze it in too much detail. Right now, in my mind, it is what it is and I am getting enjoyment from it."

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Episode 3 will be available Thursday, March 23rd at midnight. We'll be discussing a FemBot fetish on the Must Love Fetish podcast 

 

You may make an appointment to talk to me on NiteFlirt (SweetlySensual_Sara) by emailing me here on the site, or by joining Niteflirt. Additionally, you may follow me on Twitter @SaraSweetly.

 

Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured on the show? Well, shoot us an email and we'll talk logistics. Be sure to keep up with our weekly podcast and show notes by subscribing to the Must Love Fetish podcast on iTunes, Google Play, as well as Stitcher.  Please note: Strictly no under 18's allowed.

Lets remember to always keep our online community protected and to stay safe, sane, and consensual. 

 

 

The Man in the Rubber Mask - Show Notes

Photo Credit: "Men in Rubber Masks" - available on Netflix

How I became interested in Fetishism

Hi! My name is Sara, but to my callers I am better known as SweetlySensual_Sara. I am a professional online Dominatrix and phone sex operator who has successfully helped over 1000 callers learn more about and come to terms with their Fetishes. I am a professional writer in my "real life”, who loves storytelling, but who also happens to love Fetishism, too. I started out as a phone performer after a friend suggested I try it for fun, and I ended up falling in love with it completely. My love for my work has taken me on a joyful journey and has allowed me to talk to some of the most interesting people imaginable. As a result, it has led me to yearn for a better understanding of different Fetishes. Since starting work as a phone sex operator, I have gotten to know myself better and have discovered that I, too, have Fetishes that I never even knew about. It certainly has made my life much more exciting (and at times more difficult), but now that I am fully able to accept and embrace these Fetishes, I have realized what I have been missing out on for so long. This website focuses primarily on educating others and ourselves in order to understand Fetishism better - you may be here seeking answers for a loved one, or even for yourself, and if you cannot find the answers you are looking for on this page, please feel free to contact me if you'd like to know where else you may find me on the web. I hope you discover something on here that may ring true to you, something that could lead to a path of greater self-discovery, but if not, I at least hope you'll walk away with a better understanding and knowledge of the very secretive and wonderfully imaginative world that is Fetishism. 

Sara xoxo